Roots of Balance Coaching Blog

Let’s talk about one of the quietest, most insidious wounds I see in my coaching practice: the deep, gnawing belief that “something is wrong with me.”  For some, it shows up as the whisper, “I am defective,”  the sense that—at your core—you are broken in a way that no amount of fixing can heal. It’s a wound often carried by those with a Dismissive Avoidant attachment style, and it shapes the way you relate, retreat, and try (and fail) to protect yourself from ever being truly

It’s not every day you hear someone say they rarely get sick for long—and truly mean it. Last night in my Spotlight Session, one of the participants shared something so refreshingly different that it stuck with me long after the session ended. Instead of passively enduring illness, he treats his body as an ally and goes on the offense. He listens, tunes in, and actively encourages his body to do what it was designed to do: heal. This isn’t the typical approach most of us are

We spend so much of our lives bracing for the next storm—muscles tensed, mind racing, heart always just a few beats ahead of the present moment. Chaos becomes familiar, a place where we know the rules and can anticipate every flash of lightning. But what happens when the storm finally passes, and a strange, unfamiliar quiet settles in? For so many of us, this quiet—this sudden calm—can feel not like relief, but like an eerie void. We find ourselves scanning the horizon for th

There’s a silent ache that so many of us carry, sometimes buried deep, sometimes sitting right on the surface of our hearts: What if I am unlovable? It’s a question that’s rarely spoken out loud. Instead, it shows up in the quiet moments—when we shrink away from connection, when we doubt the intentions of those who care about us, or when we sabotage relationships before they can get too close. The “I am unlovable” wound can shape an entire life if left unseen. How Does This W

There’s a story that quietly shapes so many of our lives—a story that whispers (or sometimes screams), “You’re not enough.”  Not smart enough. Not attractive enough. Not successful enough. Not anything enough. Amidst self-reflection, negative thoughts can overshadow self-worth, leading to diminished motivation. Where the Wound Begins The “I am not enough” wound is often formed in the subtle spaces: Growing up in comparison—maybe to a sibling, a parent’s high expectations, or

There’s a heaviness that sits on the chest for many of us—a deep-seated sense that no matter how much we do, achieve, or give, it will never quite be enough. This is the “I am unworthy” wound: the belief that you don’t deserve love, care, belonging, or good things—simply because of who you are. A thoughtful child gazes into the distance, reflecting the complexity of childhood and the lasting impact of mixed messages on self-worth. Where It Begins The “I am unworthy” wound oft