Roots of Balance Coaching Blog

In the gentle embrace of a sunlit field, two children embody the resilience and grace of secure attachment, supporting each other through life's journey. Let’s talk about Secure Attachment—the supposed gold medal of the attachment Olympics. This is the style everyone wishes they had, the “I’m fine, you’re fine, relationships are easy” club. Studies say about 50% of people identify as securely attached. But here’s the kicker: that stat is based on self-reporting, and we humans

In the soft morning light, a couple shares a tranquil moment of intimacy, embodying presence, awareness, and connection beneath the sheets. Let’s be clear right up front:  yes, we talk about sex in my coaching practice.  Sex isn’t taboo here—it’s a fundamental, biological, and emotional part of being human. If you’re working with me, nothing is off the table for discussion, awkwardness is optional, and shame is not invited. Why? Because our approach to sex—how we give, receiv

An outstretched hand reaches towards another, embodying the push and pull of desiring connection while simultaneously fearing it. If you’ve ever felt like you’re trapped in an emotional tug-of-war—aching for intimacy but then panicking when it gets too close—you might be living with a Fearful Avoidant (also called Disorganized) attachment style. Welcome to the most confusing rollercoaster in the relationship theme park. Where does it come from? Fearful avoidant attachment oft

A translucent barrier symbolizes the emotional distance of a dismissive avoidant, keeping others at bay while protecting their inner world. You know that person who seems calm, collected, and independent to a fault—the one who keeps everyone at arm’s length and would rather walk on hot coals than talk about feelings? If this sounds familiar (maybe uncomfortably so), you’re getting a glimpse into the world of the Dismissive Avoidant attachment style. At first glance, dismissiv

Overwhelmed by anxiety as her partner distances emotionally, she grapples with the physical toll of her stress. If you’ve ever found yourself glued to your phone, anxiously awaiting a reply that never comes, or over-analyzing every interaction with someone you care about—welcome to the inner world of the Anxious Preoccupied attachment style. It’s a place of intensity, longing, and sometimes heartbreak, where love feels both like oxygen and like a test you’re doomed to fail. T

The silhouette of a parent and child reaching out to each other at sunset, highlighting the profound impact of early childhood bonding on future relationships. If you’ve ever wondered why your relationships feel like emotional rollercoasters—why you chase, pull away, get anxious, or freeze up—it’s not just “bad luck” or “just how you are.” So much of the way we love (and struggle to love) comes down to something called attachment styles. At their core, attachment styles are t

Have you ever found yourself repeating the same patterns in relationships—feeling too much, too little, too close, or too far away? Do you wonder why it’s so hard to ask for what you need, or why you react so strongly when things get rocky with loved ones? If so, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. These patterns are often rooted in your attachment style : a blueprint for connection and protection that starts in childhood but echoes through your adult life. A warm embrace

A radiant phoenix soars against the backdrop of a warm, glowing sky, embodying the essence of transformation and rebirth as it rises from the ashes. For most of my life, I lived by a set of rules I didn’t know I’d written. I moved through the world with an undercurrent of anxiety I could never quite name, and a persistent belief that if I didn’t keep everyone at arm’s length—or, on the flip side, try desperately to pull them close—I’d get hurt. Relationships felt like minefie